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Grand Master Park and his staff are top notch. The school provides some of the best staff around who build confidence in their/our kids, teach the students the meaning of respect through structured training. Our daughter trained at Parks Tae Kwon Do for years and that great experience will support her endeavors. Thanks Grand Master Park and staff!

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Like many people who start with TKD at a young age, I took a "break" after getting my black belt. A 20 year break. This year, I rekindled my love for this sport when I enrolled at Parks. This time around, I am practicing with my son. Grand Master Parks is right - it is kind of like riding a bike. What is even better than getting back into shape is that I get to share an activity with my son that I have loved since I was his age. Gabe is so excited for TKD and the disciplinary benefits are starting to sink in. Thank you for giving me the chance to share this with my son the way I used to share it with my own father.

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We started with Parks 23 years ago with our son. It's was great then & even greater now. The Parks family are warm, caring & we know that are 8 year old daughter will thrive. Since she has been there, her self-confidence has risen. After she being bullied in school, & Parks knowledge of this, we know she will stand strong with confidence thank to Grandmaster Park & his instructors

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We moved from Wisconsin to Boca about a year and half ago. My son Mikaeel was already doing Taekwondo in Wisconsin. He was able to continue at Park's from same belt rank. After a few months at Park's, he also decided to join the Elite team. Today it was my honor and privilege to see my 7 year old son getting his Sr Red Belt. This weekend was a great experience for us, and a very well organized event for Black Belt testing hosted by Grandmaster Park and his instructors. Best part was the belt ceremony, where Grandmaster honored Moms and had them give the certificates and belts to the kids.

Mikaeel's hard work, dedication, perseverance is a true testament of his instructors and masters. Looking forward to many more testings to come as he continues on his journey of becoming a Black Belt.

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My mom signed my son up for classes mid September. It started as an investment to help build my son's confidence and disicpline. Besides the ethics side he loved it! He even more enjoyed having an uniform becoming a member. It has been a challenging experience but Parks is a phenominal individual and has made the experience much smoother for him and myself. It was very new for me as well. It's going on 8 months and he is now in red uniform and wears a yellow belt. He has equipment and weapons they utilize and learn in class. This step I can tell is a huge challenge for him. Remembering moves and steps, I am very excited to see him transition. We are from California so this experience is super awesome knowing back home we are limited to these type of sports and activities. I'm proud to be apart of the Park' s Taekwondo Family ��

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Parks Taekwondo has only been a positive experience for my son. He has always been a good kid, but they have taught him not only self defense.... but self-confidence, respect and he's more outgoing. The instructors and masters are excellent! I love this place and highly recommend it.

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My daughter Anika van Rooyen started with Parks in her kindergarten year as a very very shy girl that barely said anything. She enjoyed it so much and came out of her shell so much that she decided to work toward her black belt, and received her 1st degree black belt this past December 2016. She is also a Life member because her next goal is to be an instructor too. The instructors and Masters are amazing and motivate the kids constantly. I definately recommend Parks Taekwando.

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Our friends referred us to this program and my kids love it! We had signed up for other martial arts programs in the area but this is the best by far. My 6 year old is doing a lot better with his focus and very attentive. My 9 year old absolutely loves it. It brings out the competitive spirit in him. We also love the Day camp and aftercare program! They pick them right after school at 2pm. So convenient for busy working moms and dads.

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Fear of Failure and Why It’s Wrong

 

Often, nobody is harder on you than you. It’s the way we’ve been raised, to fear failing, that one failure dooms us to “suck at doing ____” forever. Nothing could be more wrong, more damaging, and be more intellectually inhibiting to a child than teaching them that failure is forever. Yes, you can prevent your child from failing and it will have much the same effect as if you had prevented them from walking for fear of them falling down.

Moreover, all that extra love and support doesn’t make up for over-parenting and interfering in your kid’s development. Children who have helicopter parents have higher levels of anxiety and less ability to adapt to new situations, vastly lower levels of satisfaction with their basic psychological needs, and feel less competent and confident versus their peers. They don’t develop coping skills, or basic life skills that will help them to successful and independent adult lives. Parents don’t mean to do this, they may not even be aware that they are helicoptering. There are a variety of factors that can trigger helicopter behaviors.

  • Parenting Olympics: Parenting has become a competitive sport that is less about the children than it is about the parent. This is not about getting a gold medal in parenting, it’s about teaching your kids to go for their own gold.
  • “IT’S IN YOUR PERMANENT RECORD!” Low grades, not being picked for the team, or not getting a certain award can look like an impending disaster. Of course, you want to fix it. However the question is how much fixing the situation needs, or if the situation is as it appears.
  • Projection: If the economy is uncertain, if your job is not secure, if the world in general seems to have it out for you, your first instinct is to exert everything you have to protect your child. You want to keep them from fear and worry, from being hurt, and it’s easy to cross the line.
  • Overcompensation: If you were bullied, abused, neglected, or felt unloved as a child, you may overcompensate in an effort to patch the pain you still feel. Parents who did not have a healthy upbringing are often still trying to parent and nurture themselves, too.

There have been truly brilliant people who have failed many times on their way to success, and think how much poorer our lives today would be without them!

  • JK Rowling: Turned down by twelve publishers, and told to get a day job because she’d never make money in the children’s/YA market, she is now worth in excess of $1 billion and gave a TED talk on the benefits of failure.
  • Steve Jobs: Some of his projects tanked hard, but he is responsible for some of the most iconic and widely used products in 21st century life. Even Pixar – which Jobs considered a failure and tried to unload was purchased by Disney in 2006 for $7.4 billion.
  • Albert Einstein: “Failure is success in progress.” He was brilliant, but frustrated with the method of teaching, and was considered to be developmentally delayed because of speech issues. He had problems finding work in adulthood, but he went on to become one of the pre-eminent physicists of all time.
  • Vera Wang: Failed to make the 1968 Olympic figure skating team. Was passed over for the Editor-in-Chief position at Vogue. Began to design wedding gowns at age 40. Now the head of a fashion empire worth in excess of $1 billion.
  • Lady Gaga: Dropped by Def Jam, her success came as a complete surprise to L.A. Reid. Her last album “Artpop” was panned as a flop compared to “Born This Way”, but still entered Billboard 100 at #1 and sales remained strong.
  • Jay-Z: Turned down by label after label, Jay-Z founded his own label, and put out his own albums and later sold his label to Def Jam for millions. Owns the Brooklyn Nets, and co-owns or cofounded companies like Carol’s Daughter and Rocaware – both sold for millions to other companies.
  • Howard Schultz: CEO of Starbucks and owner of the Seattle Supersonics joined the company when it had only four stores, was turned down for financing 217 of the 242 times he tried.

When you fear failing, or you fear other parents judging you or your child, look at what failure can do. You can call failing down a failure at walking, but it is an essential step to learning how to walk!